Pricey Abby: They gained’t admit their dad is a mendacity, dishonest dirtbag
DEAR ABBY: My ex and I had been collectively 17 years. He was a cheater, a liar, and every other method a horrible husband will be described. I divorced him six years in the past.
My drawback is a number of of our youngsters suppose he’s a beautiful man. The older one (25) lived with him till a number of months in the past. I don’t know the right way to make her perceive how horrible he’s. I feel if she stepped again for some time, she would see it, however she (and a number of other of his different children) have been utterly brainwashed.
She’s very fast to ask a query, however once I reply in a method she feels is damaging about her dad, she out of the blue has to hold up or must go do one thing. I’m misplaced making an attempt to make her see how their a part of the household seems to be like a cult to everybody else within the household. — KNOWS THE TRUTH IN OHIO
DEAR KNOWS: Attempting to purpose together with your daughter is a waste of time. Attempting to “deprogram” your youngsters from the “cult” of loving their father isn’t working, so give up making an attempt. By persisting, you’ll solely drive a wedge between you. As you acknowledged, as soon as they’ve stepped again, they could start to see the sunshine with out assist from you. Let it occur by itself.
DEAR ABBY: A buddy of 35 years just lately accused me of exposing her and her mom to COVID. She informed me she thinks I did it on function as a result of I believed so little of them. This isn’t true!
I had been house for eight days and noticed her on a Friday. The next Wednesday I felt sick, so I bought examined. When my take a look at the following Monday got here again constructive, I informed her instantly. Since then she has blocked me and gained’t speak to me to determine what occurred. I don’t even know in the event that they bought sick.
We now have been good associates and helped one another usually. I’ve accomplished quite a bit for her, however she nonetheless refuses to speak to me. What ought to I do? — BLOCKED BY COVID IN CALIFORNIA
DEAR BLOCKED: When individuals are frightened, they generally act emotionally as an alternative of rationally. An issue with COVID is that individuals will be contaminated, with out signs, and unfold the virus with out turning into sick (but) themselves. For this reason mask-wearing and social-distancing are so vital. Out of your description, this can be what occurred in your case.
Give your buddy time to chill off and proceed making an attempt to succeed in out to her. Then hope that in gentle of your lengthy friendship, she’ll relax and you may reconnect.
DEAR ABBY: I’ve by no means seen you reply a query like mine. I’ve a $20 invoice that was torn. Sooner or later, the 2 halves grew to become separated in my pocket, and I misplaced one in all them. Is there any method I might get worth for the half that I nonetheless have? — POOR IN NEW JERSEY
DEAR POOR: I’m sorry, however the reply might be no. In case you had three-quarters of the invoice, you could possibly take it to a financial institution and alternate it for a complete invoice. However as a result of you’ve solely half, you might be out of luck. Sorry!
Pricey Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, often known as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Pricey Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
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